Jeff and I are trying to avoid mistakes that so many couples make and relationship experts warn about- love your children but don't forget to nurture your relationship as a couple. It sounds so simple to say but much harder than you think.
Laura goes to bed at 8 but Jason is between 9-9:30. So by the time he's in bed, our alone time is limited because I need to get up Laura for the bus and the morning shift of Jason. During the day I have an attendant until 3 and then it's time for Jeff to get Laura. Then we both take care of them until bed.
The lack of our time was making us cranky with each other. So we have friends that help us out by watching Jason so we can see a movie and recently one night a month to go out dancing.
Last Thursday we went to see The Butler. Jeff and I laughed because we were surrounded by the ladies of the Red Hat Society! We were definitely the minority. But we had a blast because they were all making comments and it added to the movie.
The next night we went dancing. As you know from previous posts, going out dancing is a love/hate relationship for me. I have my own insecurities and sometimes people just treat me very odd. I admit I've had a pretty negative attitude towards going dancing ever since Jason has been born.
However, dancing is something Jeff really enjoys and I do too! So we went to one place but the band was horrible. We drove down the road to another place and the band was so much better.
But as soon as I entered the dance floor the crazy people surrounded me. A guy in a cowboy hat, an unusually tall man and a middle aged woman surrounded my chair. At first, I refused to dance with anyone and tried to dance with my husband. However cowboy kept wanting to dance so instead of ruining the night, I agreed and danced with him for a minute. He asked if I'd dance again and I simply said, "maybe. "
The rest of the night was perfect. We danced together like when we were dating. In the back of my mind I thought about getting up early with Jason but it was worth it. Jeff let me sleep. I relieved him around 9 and then I napped a bit in the afternoon. All was good.