Sunday, May 25, 2014

Forms of mothering

Being a mother with limitations is a lot different than without any limitations.  I remember the early years with Laura where physically I couldn't do everything and it would kill me when she'd run to a caregiver over me. But I know now to be patient and present. Laura and I have a solid relationship. 

For a few days, I was concerned about my relationship with Jason. I felt concerned that he wasn't seeing me as his mommy. It was silly looking back at it. Jason definitely knows I'm Mommy.

He listens to me and likes sitting on my lap for hugs. He comes to me when he's tired. He will lean on me and likes our peek a boo game. Jason claps when I sing to him. MWhat I can't do physically, I try to make up for by always being present and verbal. I always tell him words for whatever he's looking at or playing with. I pick up his toys, kiss him constantly and comfort him. Recently, Jason started saying mama and will look at me.

Laura's father passed away when she was 6 months. So raising a young toddler with a partner is different. It's nice to see their bond grow. Jeff takes him out to parks, car shows and spends time with him. Jeff makes me feel good when he listens to my advice and usually follows my style of parenting. 

Jason ia now 15 months. He says Mama, Dada, Laura, baby, uh oh, what, bye, and hi. He is very intelligent and figures out things quickly. When we tell him no, he stops 90 percent of the time. 

Like every mom, I worry if I spend enough time reading to him,educating him, and playing with him. But that's all part of any mother worries.

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