The most interesting thing about me
I recently read an article about a writer with cerebral palsy who had a professor who said her disability was the most interesting thing about her. It made me think about my own life and wonder how people perceive me.
I have fought hard not to be defined by my own cerebral palsy. It isn't an easy task when your disability is so obvious and you need help. I've refused though to use it as an excuse to let it define who I am.
When people meet me, of course, cerebral palsy becomes a topic. It's a very visual disability that requires assistance (my kind anyway.) But once they get to know me, especially the ones closest to me, tend to even forget I have a disability. It's not something I talk about on a daily basis or even think about. I even have to think when I'm asked something about my disability because it is what it is.
I'll never forget when one of my friends was helping me at breakfast. She put me in my chair and put the food in front of me. Then she sat down and just continued on with the conversation. I laughed when I needed to remind her that I needed fed! Another time, my late husband told me that women who could walk looked funny to him since he was so happy with me and used to me.
Also, I told my then boyfriend but now husband that I wanted ice cream when we were talking online. He told me to go get it. He completely forgot that I couldn't walk. We both laughed at that one.
Having a disability can't help but change something in you and somewhat shape your perspective. But it doesn't define your soul, personality or being. If you are a bitter person walking then chances are that you will be a bitter person sitting.