Saturday, November 28, 2015

Thank you to the hostess at Olive Garden

Last week we took the kids out to the Olive Garden for dinner.  It was the last day of school for Laura before Thanksgiving break. And Jeff also just didn't feel like cooking. I certainly didn't argue on going to the Olive Garden. I had a long day and wasn't feeling the best either.

When we normally go to places, in general, people make silly assumptions.  It's nice when people get it right.  We went in the restaurant and there was a little bit of a line.  Jeff escorted Laura to the bathroom, and I stayed with Jason.  When the hostess was ready, I told her we had 4 people - 2 kids - 1 high chair. She understood me right away. 

Shortly after Jeff and Laura returned, she sat us.  She pulled out a chair for me and said that it was for his wife when talking to Jeff. It made me smile because not many people just assume I'm his wife so to hear it without being told, was nice.  Then they put the high chair by Laura and before I knew it, she helped Jason with his jacket. Usually we get creeped out by people too friendly with our kids but her mannerisms were just kindness. Jeff helped me with my jacket.  Then she put him in the high chair. 

Jeff and I looked at each other but realized Jason was totally cool about it. I felt happy because she helped with one less step that Jeff normally has to do.  He never complains but sometimes I feel bad that he has to do it all. 

So, thank you, for your kindness and assuming the best instead of the worst.

Trick or Treat wheelchair style

Halloween is always more fun with kids of your own. As a kid myself, I wasn't too into Halloween because everyone knew me. My dad had to carry me into most people's houses. I also can't stand the cold.  I enjoyed giving out candy and my brother and sister would share their candy with me.

When I had Laura, I was excited about Halloween. My neighborhood is accessible so I could take her. Her first Halloween she was barely a month old.  She wore a pumpkin outfit and looked so cute.  As the trick or treaters came, they wanted a glimpse of Laura. At some point, we had to turn off the outside light because the doorbell kept waking her.

The next year she was a bumble bee and made it to a few houses.  But at two, she was really into it. She was an angel and went with her cousin who was five.  She enjoyed it.  She has been a dinosaur, bat girl, witch, Dracula, Red riding hood, power ranger , bee, pumpkin, angel and this year - Hermonie from Harry Potter.

Laura was actually on the fence about going trick or treat. The year before she was getting over a bad cold. So when we went out, her stamina wasn't there. I took her home and we handed out candy as Jeff took Jason around. She enjoyed handing out candy and being with me that she said she gave up trick or treating for good! I felt sad about this because she was only eight.

When September came around this year, I started talking about Halloween.  I got her to the point where she would go out and then come back and hand out candy. I told her that I wanted to stay out the whole time because I did when she was young and I wanted to see Jason too. 

Jeff went out and hooked two flashlights up to my chair.  I have terrible night vision so it was a huge help. Jason thought they were very cool and played with them too much that after Halloween, they went away.  But, they were a big help when needed.
Jason was a minion this year. He loved dressing up.  We always call him a minion anyway since he talks like one.  Laura met a new friend this year from school.  He lives 7 minutes away by foot.  They wanted to go together this year. Another motivation for Laura to go. He was Harry Potter so the two of them looked fantastic 

We all went together and had a blast.  Jason wasn't shy for long. He would go right up and say Trick or Treat! He also remembered his manners and said thank you!!  Laura stayed out the full two hours and also had fun. I think she felt a little bad about not being able to hand out candy but I told her she will have many years for that.

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