Friday, June 24, 2016

I wish Finding Dory was around when I was a kid

Being a child in the late seventies and early eighties, movies about people with disabilities were scarce.  I remember seeing one on television that showed a man falling for a woman in a wheelchair but she ended up dying in the end anyway. Not very positive.  As of lately, there is a movie about a man who commits suicide despite being well loved, educated, and having a great life because he's in a wheelchair. Again, a terrible representation of people with disabilities.

In Finding Dory, the subtle messages that were throughout the movie hit home to me even as an adult.  Dory, the main character, has a short term memory loss disability.  She is constantly apologizing and feeling bad for others having to deal with her.  I can relate. My memory is just fine, but I need help several times a day and often apologize. I apologize for things that I can't even control. I tend to feel so bad to ask for help that I might not even ask. 

When having any disability, we want to be accepted for who we are from others. But oftentimes, we forget to accept ourselves. We don't need to apologize for even daily everyday needs because that is all apart of being a person.  Everyone has limitations even though some choose to act like they don't. We need to accept our limitations and stop apologizing (I know I do!)

I also liked Finding Dory because it shows that even if you need help, you aren't helpless.  I could relate again when Dory succeeded at things that she didn't even imagine possible. I feel this way on small accomplishments as well when my big dreams come true. So many tried to make me believe that I couldn't be a teacher, public speaker, writer, wife and mother. All of these were my goals, and when I did accomplish them - I felt a great sensation of success.

Dory's friends and family didn't always believe in her. I loved seeing the transition of not believing in her to realizing that she is much more capable than they thought. I know that feeling and it's great to show your loved ones that you are much more capable than anyone thought.

I highly recommend to see Finding Dory to anyone but especially those with disabilities or care about those who have disabilities.

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